just punch me in the face... it's easier to deal with

So during a conversation about my daughter, my son came up. The girl I was talking to seemed surprised to know I had twins. Well of course she asked about him. She thought he was still alive and I had to tell her, "no."

She asked what happened.

I said he was stillborn.

She didn't know what that meant and I had to explain that though he was born on June 23 he died on June 8.

So what does she say next?

"So you carried around a dead baby for weeks?"

Wtf? Just punch me in the face next time and keep your comments to yourself.

A Cake for My Little One

I posted earlier about how to address the birthday card for my babies first birthday. Now I have to plan a cake. I thought of doing two small cupcakes but I would feel guilty letting his sister eat his cake and I don't just want it to sit there and go to waste.

So how does everyone like this idea?



http://ww30.1800flowers.com/product.do?baseCode=17731&dataset=10313&cm_cid=d10313

I thought of maybe changing some of the flowers to blue or doing this one.

How to Address the Card

My baby girl will be one at the end of this month. I should have 2 one year olds running around but her older twin brother was stillborn. I don't know how to address the birthday card. It has a spot that says "You are Invited to: __________'s Party!" But I don't know if I should put both names or just one.

I'm afraid that if I put both no one will come and I don't want to ruin my babies' first birthday.

Help...